Positive self-talk is a beautiful act of self-love that can help us manifest a healthier and happier life.


You know, we seriously underestimate the impact our own words have upon ourselves. The way we talk to ourselves, our inner dialogue, literally shapes how we perceive ourselves and influences our actions and reactions. Our words and beliefs can either project us towards happiness and success or hold us back from doing what we need to do in order to change our lives and achieve our goals. This is where the power of positive self-talk comes into play. By consciously choosing kind, uplifting and supportive words, we can transform our mindset and improve our overall well-being. Yes, we have the power to change our narrative and transform our internal dialogues into one of positivity, growth, happiness, and love.


“I’m feeling overwhelmed – there’s too much to do – I want to stop but I can’t – I want to do that but I’m too busy – I want to sleep but I can’t – there’s too much to do – I’m feeling overwhelmed – there’s too much going on – etc. etc.!”


This is what you call a mental loop – sound familiar? It just goes round and round and round constantly, without us even realizing it. It’s like those figure of eight railway tracks for children where the train just goes round and round constantly until someone finally turns it off or the battery goes flat!

I was on a chronic loop like this for years – I constantly told myself horrific, spiteful things that I would never have dreamt of saying to anyone else. It’s this negative and repetitive dialogue in our heads that stresses us, knocks our self-confidence, makes us stay in situations, relationships, and jobs that we know aren’t right for us. It keeps us small and unhappy in our little comfort zone, it keeps our energies low, it keeps us stuck, and it runs down our ‘batteries’. We need to become aware of it, and we need to turn it off!

In this blog post, we’ll explore the importance of self-awareness and positive self-talk, and give you some practical advice and examples on how you can incorporate this into your daily life.


1.Recognizing the Impact of Self-Talk


Negative self-talk can be damaging and harmful to both our mental and emotional well-being. When we constantly criticise ourselves and put ourselves down, when we create those mental loops, we create an overwhelming cycle of self-doubt, and our low self-esteem stops us from moving forward. On the other hand, positive self-talk cultivates self-confidence, resilience, and a growth mindset. It allows us to face challenges with an I-can-do attitude and motivates us to keep moving forward. By acknowledging the power of self-talk, we are able to consciously take the first step towards harnessing its potential for our personal growth.


2.Challenge Negative Thoughts


The first step in adopting positive self-talk is becoming aware of our negative thoughts, negative affirmations, and mental loops. The second step is challenging them, yes challenging them.

Start by being aware of your internal dialogue and notice when you’re being overly critical, knocking yourself, or belittling yourself. Once you are able to identify these negative thoughts, challenge their legitimacy. Ask yourself if there is any truth or evidence to support these thoughts and beliefs or are they just unhelpful patterns of thinking. Reframe and replace these negative thoughts and beliefs with positive and realistic affirmations that reinforce your beliefs, abilities, and strengths.

Here are some examples. Instead of saying:

  • “I always mess things up” reframe it as – “I have made mistakes in the past, but I am capable of learning and improving.”


  • “I’m too old to try new things” reframe it as – “Age is just a number. My experiences and wisdom actually put me in a great position to try new things.”


  • “I don’t have what it takes” reframe it as – “I have unique skills and talents that equip me for success. It might take time to find my stride, but I’m capable and committed.”


  • “No one cares about what I have to say” reframe it as – “My thoughts and opinions are valuable and deserve to be heard. It’s important to surround myself with people who respect and value me.”


  • “I’m not good enough” reframe it as -“I am enough just as I am. My worth doesn’t depend on external accomplishments or validation.”


3.Use Positive Affirmations


Positive Affirmations are powerful tools to counteract negative self-talk and instil positive beliefs. Choose affirmations that resonate with you personally and reflect the qualities or goals you aspire to achieve. Repeat these affirmations daily, preferably in front of a mirror, and with conviction. Over time, they will become ingrained in your subconscious mind, influencing your beliefs, thoughts, emotions, and actions.


Here are a few examples of positive affirmations you can use:

  • “I am deserving of love, success, and happiness.”
  • “I embrace challenges as opportunities for growth.”
  • “I am confident in my abilities to overcome any obstacles.”
  • “I am enough, exactly as I am.”
  • “I am grateful for the abundance of love and joy in my life.”


4.Practice Self-Compassion


Self-compassion involves treating yourself with kindness, understanding, and forgiveness. It’s about acknowledging that everyone makes mistakes and that you too deserve the empathy, support and appreciation that you would give to a family member, friend or colleague. When you encounter setbacks or failures, respond with self-compassion rather than self-criticism. Treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding that you would give to a loved one facing a similar situation.


5.Surround Yourself with Positivity


The people and environment we surround ourselves with have a significant impact on our self-talk. Seek out positive influences and build a support system of individuals who uplift, inspire and motivate you. Limit your exposure to negative media and social media content that triggers self-comparison or fosters negativity. Do things that bring you joy and make you feel good, such as your favourite hobby, reading an uplifting book, exercising, or spending time in nature. Surrounding yourself with positivity will reinforce positive self-talk and contribute to your overall well-being.


6.Practice Gratitude


Gratitude is a powerful practice that can shift our perspective and cultivate a positive mindset. Take a few moments each day to reflect on the things that you are grateful for. This practice gradually trains your mind to focus on the positive aspects of your life and creates a sense of deep appreciation and contentment. When you intentionally focus on gratitude, it becomes easier to replace negative self-talk with positive affirmations.

Consider keeping a gratitude journal where you write down three things you are grateful for each day. These can be simple things like a warm cup of tea in the morning, a kind gesture from a friend, or a beautiful sunset. By regularly acknowledging and expressing gratitude, you will notice a shift in your self-talk towards a more positive and optimistic outlook.


7.Celebrate Your Achievements


Often, we downplay our accomplishments, or dismiss them as insignificant. Celebrating your achievements, no matter how small, is an essential part of encouraging positive self-talk. Recognize your progress and give yourself credit for all your hard work and achievements. Acknowledge that you are capable of reaching your goals and that every step forward – no matter how small – is worthy of celebration. By acknowledging your successes, you reinforce positive self-talk and build self-confidence.


8.Seek Support If Needed


If negative self-talk is deeply ingrained, or if you are struggling with self-esteem issues, seeking professional support can be immensely helpful. Therapists, counsellors, or life coaches can guide you through the process of rewiring your self-talk patterns and provide tools and techniques to cultivate self-compassion and positive self-talk. Don’t hesitate to reach out for assistance if you need it. Remember, you are worth it.



Final Thoughts…



The power of positive self-talk cannot be overstated. By consciously choosing kind, uplifting, and encouraging words, we can transform our mindset, improve our self-esteem, and create a more positive and fulfilling life for ourselves and those around us. Remember to challenge negative thoughts, use affirmations, practice self-compassion, surround yourself with positivity, cultivate gratitude, celebrate achievements, and seek support when it is needed.

Embracing positive self-talk isn’t a quick fix; it’s a lifelong journey of growth, resilience, and self-love. The next time you find yourself caught up in a whirlpool of negative self-talk, pause, take a deep breath, and remember the power that YOU hold. You have the power to change your story and transform your self-talk into words of positivity, growth, and love.

Remember, the most powerful words you will ever hear are the words you speak to yourself. Make them kind, make them loving, and make them count. So come on start today and just see how your self-belief and confidence begins to soar, empowering you to achieve the greatness that you deserve!



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As a teacher of Self-love, Beingness, and the power of I AM, Fiona Elizabeth blends her expertise as a metaphysical practitioner with her heart and soul experience and Mother Nature’s wisdom. Holding a master’s degree and certifications in Metaphysical Science, Spiritual Counselling, Relaxation and Journal Therapy, she is committed to guiding people towards living authentically and uncovering who and what they truly are. Join her in embracing a life enriched by self-knowledge, self-transformation, and, most importantly, self-Love.

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