REmembrance
A few months ago, I suddenly began to notice the word remembrance. All at once it just seemed to be everywhere I looked, and in everything I read. I had never really thought much about this word before, but I felt called to sit with it. I journalled it a lot. I began to write about it. And I slowly began to understand what REmembrance truly meant.
It’s not just about REmembering facts or figures or events. It’s not just about memories of good or bad moments. It’s not just about people, or circumstances, or incidents in our lives. It’s also about REmembering who we truly are beneath all those dark, hefty, weighty layers that life placed upon us.
It’s time…
I went rather quiet for a long time. Not because anything particular was happening outside of me — quite the opposite really — but something big was definitely happening inside of me. That gentle voice deep within me was constantly whispering… It’s time to slow down. It’s time to listen. It’s time to take care of yourself. It’s time to be present with yourself. It’s time to remember who you truly are.
You know, sometimes, all we need to do is to step back from all the noise and confusion of everyday life and learn to listen to that voice inside of us that is patiently and lovingly calling for our attention. Sometimes with a gentle whisper, sometimes bellowing when our ears become deaf!
For me, those years, were a time of quiet REflection, RElearning, and REturning to those parts of myself that, for so long, had patiently waited for me to listen.
The Questions Many Of Us Carry
In this world that constantly rewards speed, productivity, and incessant self-improvement, many of us are quietly (and not so quietly) exhausted and overwhelmed from even trying to keep up — trying to be and do everything for everyone while losing genuine connection with ourselves. Over the years I’ve spoken with so many women who have quietly asked themselves the same questions as I did…Who am I really? What is wrong with me? Why don’t I feel like I fit in anywhere?
These questions often arise when we’ve spent so many years trying to adapt ourselves to other people’s expectations — family expectations, work expectations, social, cultural and religious expectations — until we finely believe that something is innately wrong with us. We slowly lose our voice; we gradually lose connection with ourselves.
But, what if…?
What if nothing is actually wrong with us? What if we have simply become disconnected from our inner self?
“Always remember who you are. Know that you are never required to apologize to anyone for being yourself.” Iyanla Vanzant
My Own Journey
For years, I was constantly asking myself those very same questions. Over, and over. And over, and over again.
I was continuously exhausted – emotionally, physically, mentally. I was always trying to improve myself. Always trying to be more. Always feeling that there were so many more layers of me that needed fixing before my life could change.
I always felt awkward, unsure, uncomfortable, as if I really didn’t belong anywhere. I tried so hard to shape myself into what others wanted me to be, hoping that eventually I would feel at ease, accepted, and fit in. But, you know, the more I tried, the further I moved away from myself. Until one day I just totally lost myself.
Over time, through all the fear, the tears, the pain, the reflections; through all the experiences, hard challenges and difficult lessons I had to face, something began to slowly shift.
I realised that beneath all the expectations and beliefs that I had soaked up over the years, somehow that quiet inner voice was still there. It hadn’t disappeared. It hadn’t abandoned me. It hadn’t stopped whispering. It had just been – patiently and lovingly – waiting for me to finally listen.
I learnt that it’s not about working on ourselves. It’s not about constantly analysing ourselves. It’s not about doing us but…it’s all about being us. Being ourselves, being present with ourselves. Allowing ourselves to heal from the inside out.
It’s not about becoming someone new. It’s about reconnecting with the self that has always been there beneath all the layers we have accumulated. All the…
- fears
- expectations
- overwhelm
- pressure
- conditioning
- stories
Finally allowing ourselves to be who we came here to be.
The Power of Gentle Spaces
One of the most important things I discovered during this time was the importance of being in nature, in safe and gentle spaces. In those spaces where…
*we can just stop, take a breath and be present.
*we don’t have to perform or explain ourselves to anyone.
*real conversations can just happen – slowly, gently and honestly.
Interesting things can happen in these spaces. People begin to relax and breathe differently. They slowly begin to hear their own inner voice.
An image came to me that captured this idea perfectly “the hearth”. Yes, the hearth – “the heart of home”. A space of warmth, comfort, and belonging. A space for cultivating presence, self-love and self-compassion. A space where stories are shared, where silence is allowed, where we can learn to finally let go of what we no longer need. A space where no one needs to pretend and people can simply come as they are.
The REmembrance Circle
Over the past few weeks, I have been quietly creating a space. A space that I’ve called The REmembrance Circle – a place where women can come together to gently and consciously breathe, REflect, REconnect with themselves and REmember who they truly are.
This Circle isn’t about fixing anyone. It’s all about REmembering…
REmembering your own voice.
REmembering your right to be here.
REmembering that nothing about you is broken.
REmembering the truth of who you truly are.
REmembering is the…
*soft unfolding of truth that has long been hidden beneath your survival.
*slow shedding of all those roles, all those masks, and all those stories that were never yours to begin with.
*quiet inner voice that whispers, “You aren’t lost, my love. You are only buried.”
*gentle gathering of all the scattered pieces of yourself, holding you together with tenderness and love.
You know, sometimes, all we need is a warm and loving space to just sit awhile and feel held & seen without any form of pressure or performance. Just spending time with others on the same soul path — not forcing or fixing anything but learning to…
*be more compassionate and present with ourselves
*slow down, soften and root ourselves in what is real
*breathe, reflect, move gently inwards
*hold each other in compassionate presence.
This is not about doing more. It’s about being more – being more you — one gentle step at a time. It’s about REmembering that healing is cyclical – it doesn’t happen all at once, our softness isn’t a weakness, and you already hold the wisdom you are looking for.
“Can you remember who you were before the world told you who you should be?”
Charles Bukowski
There is no right way to walk this path. There is only your way — and this space where you can walk with others who know what you are going through.
This isn’t a course. It isn’t a program. It isn’t here to push you into doing more. It’s a space — a gentle, compassionate space for you to return back home to yourself.
If you’ve been feeling the pull to slow down, soften, and reconnect with your truth… If the world has felt too loud for too long, and your inner self has been whispering, “I need space to breathe. To feel. To REmember…”
Then this is your invitation into The REmembrance Circle — a coming home — not to who you think you should be, or how others expect you to be, but to who you’ve always been beneath it all. Because you are not here to perform. You are here to BE. To BE you …and nobody else.
REmembering who you are is not about learning something new. It’s about REturning to something that was always there…just silently waiting beneath all the noise.
“You just need to remember who you are beneath all the layers of what you are not.”
Fiona Elizabeth
An Invitation
If any part of what you have read resonates with you, come and join us in The REmembrance Circle. It’s a gentle space where women can come exactly as they are — tired, curious, searching, hopeful — and explore the journey of REmembering themselves.
You can learn more about The REmembrance Circle here.
You don’t need to do this alone. You don’t need to be fully healed to be held. You’re invited to come just as you are — in all your Becoming. Come and sit in the circle. Come home to yourself.
You are so welcome here.
*You might also be interested in reading… “Crossing the Threshold – Returning Back To You”
With BIG Love
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