Self-Love is neither selfish nor indulgent, but essential.


As we go through life, we encounter many different voices: the voice of society, our teachers, our religion, our community; the voice of our friends, our family, our colleagues, and, of course, our own voice too. Among all of these discordant voices, there’s always a subtle, yet profound message that gets skewed – far too often! And that is that “Self-love, self-care, and self-acknowledgement are selfish and indulgent.” No! No, they aren’t. Absolutely not! Self-love is an essential and fundamental component of our lives. Let’s have a closer look at this misconception, this misunderstanding, and celebrate the true essence of self-love.


The Misinterpretation of Self-Love


The idea that self-love is selfish and indulgent comes from a misunderstanding of what it truly means. Self-love isn’t about disregarding others or placing ourselves on a pedestal above everyone else. It’s about acknowledging our worth, embracing our individuality, and maintaining a healthy relationship with ourselves. It’s about cultivating loving kindness towards ourselves that enables us to face life’s challenges with resilience, grace and respect.


The Ripple Effect of Self-Love


When we truly love ourselves, we create a ripple effect that extends far beyond our personal realm. When our own cup is full of love, we are able to pour out love to others. We can only give what we have, we cannot give what we don’t have. If we have love and respect for ourselves, we can share that same love and respect with those around us. If we are tired, angry, full of pain, guess what we have to give others. When we feel content and fulfilled, we radiate positivity, empathy, and understanding out to others. We become better friends, better partners, better parents, and better members of our community.


Self-Care is a Vital Act of Survival


Self-care is a major component of self-love, and it too, is so often dismissed as a luxury or an act of indulgence. Yet, in reality, it a is vital act of survival. Just as we need food and water to nourish our bodies, we need self-care to nourish our souls. Whether it’s taking a moment to rest, to meditate, to read a chapter of the book we’re reading, to indulge in our favourite hobby, or simply saying no when we’re feeling overwhelmed, self-care is about replenishing our energy so that we can face life with renewed vigour and enthusiasm. It’s about creating a healthy balance between giving and receiving, between being and doing, between taking action and resting, between connecting with others and connecting with ourselves.


The Power of Self-Acknowledgement


Self-acknowledgement is also disregarded, yet it is a deeply empowering aspect of self-love. It’s all about recognizing our achievements, no matter how small they may seem. It’s about honouring our emotions, our strengths, our weaknesses, and our uniqueness. By acknowledging ourselves, we cultivate a sense of self-worth that is not dependent on external validation but stems from an internal source of strength and confidence. And when we are able to acknowledge ourselves with love, we are automatically able to acknowledge and respect others in the same way.



Final Thoughts… Self-love is not selfish but essential


Self-love, self-care, and self-acknowledgement are not selfish; they are essential components of our lives. They are not about excluding others, but about including ourselves in the circle of compassion and care that we extend to the world. When we learn to love ourselves, we create a world that is more accepting, more empathetic, and more loving.

The relationship we have with ourselves flows out to every single relationship we have with others and the world around us. Self-love is not selfish; it’s necessary. It’s not indulgent; it’s essential. You deserve your own love, kindness, and understanding just as much as anyone.




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Fiona Elizabeth is a Teacher of Beingness and Self-love leader. She has a Master in Metaphysical Science and is a certified Metaphysical Practitioner, Ordained Minister, Spiritual Counsellor, Shadow Worker, and Journal Therapist.

“My mission is to hold a safe, nurturing space for you to grow and live a life that is grounded in self-love, self-knowledge, self-transformation, and spiritual alignment. Teaching and sharing self-love and spiritual practices that nourish your needs, mind, and heart, and support you in aligning with your highest self and purpose. “

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